Aspergers and Women

Some of these traits are very Asperger like while others are just part of growing up and some maybe linked to Aspergers at a later date after more research has been done. Over time we learn to do things a certain way to blend in better and so that a trait disappears and we step closer to being like normal people. Personally though I prefer to carve my own path and enjoy getting to know myself better. I’m not trying to step closer to the norm. I’m just trying to be more comfortable with me.

My desire is to delve into High Functioning Aspergers in adults, especially women. I am not trying to fix myself. I am trying to know myself. With better understanding I can live life to my fullest potential. I’m not living my life to the full today. I’m in rest mode. Already I have lived what seems to be nine lives already. Full on busy followed by lulls and rest.  Knowing the name Aspergers brings me relief and with time will come a greater understanding. This is early days for me in my self discovery.

I am married and DH and I have dealt with my Aspergers without knowing what it was. I think DH has tendencies too so perhaps that is why we live together so well? Pedantic at times, lackadaisical the other. My personality is full of contradiction. Aren’t we all?

Me as an ADULT
In no particular order….

Visual thinker
Takes things literally
Answer reaction time slower than most people, speaks thoughtfully
Blunt at times
Shows stillness
Willing to let others know when her way is better, more efficient
Not ambitious in the traditional sense
Intense at times
Over analyses everything
Not good at multi-tasking
Unlimited Curiosity
Prone to ask “Why?” often
Scared of boredom
Great empathy
A good sense of humour
Shy in groups
Worries about everything
Very good sense of direction
Strong sense of right and wrong
Likes structured activities
Appears secretive
An extremely private person
Sweet tooth
Doesn’t like looking in the mirror
Feels like an observer, or an imposter
Does not know how to relax
Not able to articulate quickly certain words, despite being able to visualise what one wants to say, causes frustration
Abundance of Empathy

Boundless energy at times
An angelic smile
Writes and draws holding a pen between the middle finger and the index finger
Clumsiness navigating corners
Good eye hand coordination
Likes soft clothing against the skin (cannot have coarse wool directly against the skin)
Loathes the sound of strong wind
Loathes the smell of flowers
Loathes high pitched electronic sounds
Dislikes certain food textures
Sensitive to bright sunlight
Bites finger nails
Loves putting together kit sets

A good listener
Enjoys reading
Has few friends
Told to watch tone when speaking
Takes criticism poorly
Gets on well with the elderly (due to enhanced listening skills perhaps?)
Enjoys watching insects and clouds
Never into the latest fashions or hairstyles
When reaching sensory overload says, “…can’t think any more, … brain hurts.” and retreats somewhere quiet under order is restored
Doesn’t like crowded situations
Prone to inappropriate yawning, which upsets others
Likes going to the hairdresser for the scalp massage not for the conversation
Finds it tiring going out somewhere new, gets visual sensory overload sometimes, looking at everything


My Delirium – Ladyhawke

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